Behaviorist Theory.

Today I reached a milestone. I am secure in my decisions. I experienced dating 3 people at once. I like them all for different reasons. One in particular likes me a lot. He got the emptiest pockets, though. The brother on some “Thug it out with me, let’s do it for the love” type of thing. Nah.

I think it’s a test of if I mean what I say. I decided a few months back that I’m not just gone hold  a nigga down just because now, no no. I will only do that if you earn it. Ain’t no damn such thing as accepting you broke as hell trying to date me. Hoping you come up. A few years ago, I dated a guy who lost his job while we were dating. He didn’t even begin applying for jobs until I stared asking him to. When he finally did come into some money, he forgot all about me and hit the bricks. Trickin’ off and buying bottles and other (erm, party favors) for him and his homeboys. Because of that, I decided a man needs to show me he’s good on his own. When life knocks him down (as it does to all of us), I will see IF he has what it takes to get back up. My role in that situation is to encourage him.

I’m not a gold digger but I AM  a woman. Ain’t I a woman?? The man’s role is to impress me, my job is to oblige him. I used to think I should make things difficult on purpose. That’s a waste of mine and his time. If he feels he wont get anywhere, why would he try? Men are just human beings. “Playing hard to get” is teasing. Being unattainable is just that. And guess what that’s gone get you ladies?? UNATTAINED.

Ironically, I’m sitting in a psychology class and the teacher is talking about the difference between behavior theory and cognitive theory. Behaviorists think learning only occurs when there is an observable change in behavior. Cognitive theorists believe mental processes can still take place that result in learning, even if the person/ animal doesn’t DO anything to demonstrate they’ve learned. These two theories are both correct, and in real life, we know these things coexist. Situational factors affect our choices. Today, though, I’m a behaviorist. Thanks, KCamp 🙂